"...The real romantics are the boring ones — they let another heart bore a hole deep into theirs. 

Be one of the boring ones. Pray to be one who get 50 boring years of marriage – 50 years to let her heart bore a hole deep into yours. 

Let everyone do their talking about 50 shades of grey, but don’t let anyone talk you out of it: committment is pretty much black and white. Because the truth is, real love will always make you suffer. Simply commit: Who am I willing to suffer for? 

Who am I willing to take the reeking garbage out for and clean out the gross muck ponding at the bottom of the fridge? Who am I willing to listen to instead of talk at? Who am I willing to hold as they grow older and realer? Who am I willing to die a bit more for every day? Who am I willing to makeheart-boring years with? Who am I willing to let bore a hole into my heart? 

Get it: Life – and marriage proposals — isn’t not about one up-manship — it’s about one down-manship. It’s about the heart-boring years of sacrifice and going lower and serving. It’s not about how well you perform your proposal. It’s about how well you let Christ perform your life.... 

I’m praying, boys — be Men. Be one of the ‘boring” men – and let your heart be bore into. And know there are women who love that kind of man. 

The kind of man whose romance isn’t flashy – because love is gritty.The kind of man whose romance isn’t about cameras — because it’s about Christ.The kind of man whose romance doesn’t have to go viral — because it’s going eternal.No, your dad did not get down on one knee when he proposed – because the romantic men know it’s about living your whole life on your knees.

There are Fridays. And the quiet romantics who will take out the garbage without fanfare. There will be the unimaginative calendar by the fridge, with all it’s scribbled squares of two lives being made one. The toilet seat will be left predictably up. The sink will be resigned to its load of last night’s dishes. 

And there is now and the beautiful boring, the way two lives touch and go deeper into time with each other. 

The clock ticking passionately into decades."

[From A Holy Experience - as kindly shared by Linda - a woman who has always championed real romance to a once hopeless romantic. Thank you Linda - for telling me about love.]