I think single people fall into thinking that they will suddenly become someone else when they meet the right person.  I've heard it a lot.  Like that person's very presence in your life will suddenly change who you are.  Yes, I am sure they will make you want to be better, they'll inspire you, make you love more and deeper... but you'll still be you.  The you you are today.  There isn't this person you are today and this magical creature you're transformed into when you meet the prince(ss).  If you want to behave a certain way when you meet that person, you'd better start today.  Habits you don't want to have? Start changing them now - because love doesn't magically break habits in seconds.  They are built over years, and they're broken over years. 

Anywho, just a thought.  Stop thinking that when that person walks into your life - they'll somehow change you into who you've been dreaming of being.  They wont.  And there's a good chance, they won't even pay you a second glance - because they aren't looking for the frog that's been dreaming of being turned into a prince.  They're looking for a man (or woman).


You might not think you struggle with this at all - but if you take a better listen into your conversation, you'll probably be surprised to hear hints that it's made its way in to your thinking.  I don't know how or why, but we all seem to be plagued a bit with this concept that somehow when you meet that right person, everything changes - including you.  I'll go ahead and blame it on movies (Hollywood is a great scapegoat) - the bad boy suddenly meeting the right girl and changing his ways in 20 minutes. But, I think it's just as ingrained in some of our church relationship ideas (not as easy of a scapegoat, so I'm not going to sit and widdle through that one) - if you wait for the right person, everything will be perfect, including you.

What if you suddenly don't change?  What if you find yourself with the person of your dreams, and realizing you aren't the man or woman you'd always dreamed you'd be for them?  Instead, you're still a selfish, immature mess with eyes that wander and emotions that drive them?  I think that would be a certain sort of hell - to watch yourself fail the person you want more than anything to serve and love.

Anyways, my morning bus thoughts - dear God, change me now.